Okay guys another topic for you to learn, this time
something that you can use on a daily basis. Have you ever thought during
conversations with a girl and asking yourself “Does she like me or is she just
being polite?”
Would it be so much easier if they just came right out
and said it, wouldn’t it? BUT they won’t.
Now it’s up to us guys, as a man, to take notice of the
subtle signals a girl is giving us, and act accordingly. If we don’t have our
eyes wide open for these signals the we may wind up in a dead end conversation
with a girl who has no interest in us past the free drinks we’ve been feeding
her. Or even worse.. we may wind up walking away from a girl who is practically
jumping at the chance to follow us back to our place and tear our clothes up.
So you want to know what these subtle signals are? All of
the signs I listed below, in isolation, don’t necessarily mean a girl is into
you. But as you begin to see several of these signals of interest, you can be
certain that, at the very least, you’ve got enough rapport to begin to escalate
the conversation to a more intimate level.
She is laughing at your jokes, even when there’re not
funny.
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Now this is the most common signal ever. If a
girl is being the perfect audience, laughing on cue, egging you on to talk
more, and has a big smiles plastered across her face the entire time you’re
talking it is a pretty clear indication that she’s enjoying your company. When
we laugh at someone we unconsciously are saying “I like you. And I’m listening
to what you’re saying.” And if she is going out of her way to encourage you to
keep talking. One thing just be careful not to confuse true laughter with an “oh
my god get me out of here” grin or a nervous giggle.
She tells you to taste or take a sip of her drink or any
food in particular.
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This one has been an almost 100% indicator for
me over the years that a girl is ready to be kissed. If you’re at a bar
talking to a girl, and she hands you her drink and says something like “try my
drink.” Or if she encourages you in any way to take a sip of her drink, she is
unconsciously telling you that she is comfortable with you on a more intimate
level. This is a great “little known” how to tell if a girl likes you.
She asks you if you have a girlfriend or pries for the information
in any way.
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The big question on this one is “if the girl is
not interested on you then why bother ask for something that is related to your
personal life considering that it’s about relationships?”
When a girl is around a man
that she is becoming attracted to, she will almost always try to find out if he
has a girlfriend.
Most girls will flat out ask. If
she doesn’t flat out ask, she’ll most likely ask questions that pry for the
information like “who do you live with?” or if you just told a story about
going on vacation or to a concert she’ll say “who did you go with?”
Hi-Five Test
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If you want to actively try to figure out if a girl is interested … here is a little test you can do that will help you gage
the amount of interest a girl has. As you’re talking to a girl, and she says
something you like, give her a high five.
The key is that as you slap her
hand sort of grip her fingers for a split seconds. Her reaction to this
indicated her comfort level around you. If she pulls her hand immediately away,
or leaves her fingers limp, she probably still does not feel comfortable around
you.
On the other hand, if she hold
her hand there for a second, grips your fingers back, or sort of lets her hand
slide against yours … it’s a pretty good indicator that you’ve developed a nice
level of rapport with her.
She calls you a player.
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Strange? Not really. Most of us would assume
that if a girl says “you’re such a player” that she is probably not interested.
But this is just one of those counter-intuitive things you figure out with
enough time talking to girls.
If a girl calls you a player,
two things have already been accomplished. The first is that she has become comfortable
enough around you to say that sort of thing. And the second is that she views
you as the sort of guy who is used to talking to girls.
If a girl ever makes this sort
statement, simply view it as a “shit test” and go on with the conversation as
usual. DO NOT defend yourself or try to prove to her that you aren’t. In fact,
the best response is to just smile and say “it is that obvious?” and proceed
with the conversation as if it was never said.
Bottom line is that there are various other
IOI(indicators of interest) that some dating gurus recommend looking out for
such as body language, eye contact, and verbal cues. I have a lot but those 5
things I shared now are just the common ones. No need to make things
complicated for you for we are here to have fun. I always tell this during training
camp, “whatever you learn or acquired, it’s not a tool for you to destroy someone’s
affection or feelings towards you but a gift that can bring happiness for the both
of you”. Till then enjoy dating.
